What to say when family asks "So, how is the job search going?"
It is coming. Somewhere between the turkey and the pie, a relative will lean over and ask how the job search is going. They usually mean well. That does not make it easier to answer for the fourth time in one evening.
Here are answers for every mood: funny, honest, short, and the polite subject change. Pick one in advance and you will not have to think on the spot.
Funny answers
- Great, actually. I am in the final round with three companies. The round is called waiting.
- I have a lot of applications under review. Some of them since 2019.
- I am currently between opportunities, which is a fancy way of saying I have time to help with the dishes.
- The job market and I are in a complicated relationship. It is seeing other candidates.
- I had 40 interviews this year. Mostly with myself, in the mirror.
Short and honest
- It is slower than I hoped, but I am getting interviews and learning a lot.
- It is a tough market right now. I am applying every week and following some good leads.
- Still looking. I will definitely tell everyone when there is news.
When you want them to actually help
- I am looking for [type of role]. Do you know anyone at [company or industry] I could talk to?
- Honestly, an introduction would help more than anything. Who do you know in [field]?
The kind boundary
- Thanks for asking. I am taking a break from job talk today, but I would love to hear about your trip.
- I promise I will share any news. Tonight I am just here for the food.
Or let your outfit answer for you
Our Ugly Job Market Sweatshirt says it before anyone asks: "Unfortunately, we have decided to move forward with other reindeer." It ends the question and starts a laugh.
Frequently asked questions
How do I answer when family keeps asking about my job search?
Pick one short answer and repeat it, then change the subject to something they enjoy talking about. Repetition signals the topic is closed without being rude.
Should I tell family how hard the job search is?
Share as much as feels right. Being honest with one trusted person often helps, and they can quietly steer others away from the question.
How can family help someone who is job hunting?
Introductions, practice interviews and not asking for updates every week. Let the job seeker bring it up.
